need some advise, all members please help

[Megatokyo]

This is a serious topic, im not gona take any spam or wise ass remarks, if you can help post if your just gona be a dick then **** off, thank you

Earlyer today a friend of mine got on aim and told me she had ****ed herself up on pot, well I knew she did that stuff so I just rode it off like normal, but when I got to work she had just left cus she was sick *I told her to not go in cus she was messed up from the pot* well I got to talking to one of the other people that we work with and he told me she had done more then smoked some pot, she had gone and done 3 lines of coke, after hearing that it felt like my chest just sank into the ground. So all day I had bin fighting with myself over what I should do, I dont know if I should interfer and possably screw up a friendship or should I just sit back and see if she dosnt do it again, I had asked her about it and she said it was a one time thing but I have no idea what to belive now, so iv turned to the people whos opinions I trust most, so can any of you give me some advise on what I should do????

[Zelphiel]

do everything you can to stop her from doing it... coke is bad.. a chick I used to date ended up in jail because of it. if you can't do anything, tell her parents. she might hate you for it, but in the long run it'll be for the better.

[Chaos Theory]

you should tell her parents like BB suggested since coke is on of the most addictive drugs in the world and it will **** your entire system when taking it.


This drug is one that once you take you really just cant stop like that, it takes a long time.

[Jeff]

If you care about your friend, you will not let her abuse herself through these drugs. She might not like it, but you have to do something about it before it's too late.

[Saberstar]

Ah well, what they all said.
If you continue to let her do as she wish, you might lose a friend for a life time.
But if you try and do anything possible to stop her, you might end up saving her. She'll eventually realize that what you did for her in the past was a good thing.

I'm pretty sure you know what to do...

[Chicken Little]

Might not like it?

Lets say this, i had a friend who got stoned at every party she went to, which was about 4-7 a month, female friend at that. She was a nice girl and just got mixed up in it like most people do and we were close. The first time i noticed she was doing it i spoke to her about it she explained yeah i was just testing it, seeing what it ws like and the usual phrases. That night she did it again, met a guy stuff happened and she regrettted it the next day. I picked up the pieces told her to stop the **** or everytime she did it id make it my business to make her stop the ****. Needless to say she stopped soon after that and is now married and happy.

So basically its not as bad as your situation since i was adamant about her not doing it and your debating whether or not to do it, but theres a time to say things and a time to do things. If you dont say anything now you'll be beating yourself up for it and then you'll probably have to take action because you cant take it anymore, and by then itd probably be too late to do anything. My philosephy is if you have a problem with what someones doing you tell them straight up what that problem is, and if neccessary how much of a retard they are for doing it. Sure you get hated by some conceited individuals, but in the long run you feel better for yourself and you hopefull make them think twice about it.

[Megatokyo]

well most of you have bin helpfull, and some desided to act like an ass, but il let it slide, Fly, you dont think Iv tryed to talk to her, Iv asked her and begged her numorus times to stop, but she is a very hard headed person, things dont always end up like your experiance did, some people just dont want to listen to what you have to say no matter how good of a friend you are to them, she keeps giving me an "I know its bad, and I realy should stop" type answer, thats all I ever get, she keeps telling me not to worry, and some times when realy good friends say things like that to you, you just want to belive them, so its not like Iv bin sitting on my ass, I just dont know what else to do, I cant get her dad into this *I dont have her home #, just her cell* so thats out of the question, at this point I can only hope that she is telling me the truth, I did find some interesting things about her mom though, which may be a reason to how this all started.....

[Chicken Little]

never said you were doing nothing or that everything does work out. I declared the basic principles that happen to any problem: action, ignorance and worry. Neither can lead to an outcome while all can lead to an outcome it all depends on other factors. Generally if you gave the information on what type of person she was and the other factors then my post would have contained things that revolved around that, but since initially you didnt digress all that much about them i had to elaborate on previous experiences ive had and relate them to your case, so next time digress as much information as you can before you hack apart an argument for not following your structure or what your looking for when you havent told squat.

So back on track if thats the response your given then its most likely shes brushing you aside, for a reason you can no doubt find out through other means, most likely because you seem to enforce things on her and im guessing she doesnt like decisions made for her and things forced upon her. Personally, id go upside her head at that point before leaving and not worrying about it. But i doubt youd do that since you care.