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Applejack
03-11-2010, 02:21 PM
Everyone has one. That relative who, when you were young, you thought would never die. "Uncle Fred will be fine! He's invincible!" Or whatever. Often it might've been your father. In my case it was my uncle Bill. My dad's brother. My dad has a large family, especially for white people standards. But my dad hates just about everyone in his family except for my two uncles: Bill and Neil. Niel lives in Colorado and owns his own dentistry. He's rad as fuck and once gave me 300 bucks out of the goddamn blue. One of Neil's kids, my nephew, might one day be a pro baseball player.

But Uncle Bill? Man, I WORSHIPED that guy as a kid. He was in the army, so that gave me a lot of respect for him. He was in Vietnam, drafted, the only one of my dad's family to be drafted, though my dad was close. He was in the shit, but didn't suffer for it or anything like that. He was shot in the thigh, any higher he'd be like a smarter Forrest Gump. It wasn't a million dollar wound or anything, and he was back looking for Charlie before you knew it. This was all, of course, before I was born. But as a kid Uncle Bill was my favorite dude in the world. He was always telling hilarious jokes and buying us ice cream and doing all sorts of rad projects. He even played Dungeons and Dragons with us. He was the worst Dungeon Master ever but we didn't give a shit, it was Uncle Bill, the coolest goddamn uncle in the world.

And by we I mean myself and my estranged cousins who I think are now in a mental asylum. Schizophrenia.

I remember always going over to my grandmother's house, she'd drive over to Uncle Bill's house and it'd be awesome. He had a goddamn Sega Genesis in the attic! We'd go up there and play some Streets of Rage and have a blast, then we'd go get some hotdogs and go to a White Sox game. Me and my Uncle Bill. I would go to family gatherings at my Uncle Frank's house (Uncle Frank being the uncle who gave me beer and told me it was apple juice. I was six.), in the basement was a Nintendo Entertainment System and SUper Mario Brothers. The kids would stay in the basement playing Mario. Then down comes Uncle Bill who showed us a bunch of secrets and hidden 1-Ups. If we ever got stuck, Uncle Bill would come and beat the level. Shit yeah.

He got into a car accident when I was seven, a nasty wreck that took the life of the driver and passenger of the car that hit him. The Fire Department had to use the Jaws of Life to get Bill out of there. But Bill didn't have a scratch. And that was how he became my Invincible Uncle Bill. My grandmother and he told me his war stories and it added to the legend that was my uncle. I loved this dude. He was awesome.

When I was nine he adopted his daughter, my aunt Kathy being barren. Her name is Ashley and is the only other black kid on my dad's side of the family, next to myself of course. Ashley and I were friendly almost from the get go. It was pretty cool having a relative my own age that I could actually stand to be around.

But then Bill, Kathy, and Ashley moved way upstate and I didn't see them as much. As I got older, I saw him less and less, but he was still my awesome uncle Bill. I saw him at least once a year, if not more. I remember one year, I was thirteen or fourteen, Ashley's birthday came up and all she wanted was a horse. Uncle Bill got her a god damn horse. And Ashley is still way into horseback riding, so it wasn't one of those phases. Uncle Bill is the coolest motherfucker ever. He got kicked by the horse and was totally fine.







But last night we got a call from my grandmother, my dad's mom, regarding Bill.



Bill has been battling cancer for the better half of a year or so. It's gotten extremely bad over the last few days. He can't even turn over without it causing excruciating pain. He can't talk much due to pain. He might not even make it to this weekend.

It's world shattering, in a way. Uncle Bill, my awesome invincible uncle! He could do anything! Survive anything!


But it seems as if those fantasies of youth might come crumbling down around me as I realize that my invincible Uncle Bill, might not even make it through the night. I can't imagine what my dad is feeling, he was closest to Bill out of all his brothers. I know that life is a finite thing, but it's still so....I don't even know how to describe it. Man.

Pull through, Uncle Bill. Please.


It's a sad thing when you are faced with potentially losing a loved one.

Irving1992
03-11-2010, 02:35 PM
I'm so sorry Droog. I wish nothing but the best for your family, dude.

Bloozilla
03-11-2010, 03:17 PM
I'm so sorry to hear about this. My sympathies.

Snips
03-11-2010, 03:20 PM
I can't say I know what the invincible relative thing is like, but I've lost over a quarter of my family to cancer or other illnesses, so at the very least I can offer my heartfelt wishes that he'll be okay. It always sucks, losing a loved one, and I don't like it when anyone has to go through it.

Lancet Jades
03-12-2010, 12:25 AM
That sucks, Droog =/

For what it's worth, we're here for you.

Kaffee
03-12-2010, 06:02 PM
So sorry bro, I know how it feels, my thoughts go out to your family.

Applejack
03-28-2010, 09:45 PM
I'm sorry to say that Uncle Bill passed away moments ago.


My dad is with my mom right now, clearly devastated. I'm in shock as well.


I think my dad would've like to be there.


But even in death, Uncle Bill could be doing good. He's donating his body to science.



Maybe they'll find out what made him so god damn invincible all these years.

Mina
03-28-2010, 10:18 PM
My condolences :(
I wish I saw this when you first wrote it.

You were so lucky to have such a good family member, I envy that. I wish I had a family, in general. My grandfather was the only family I felt I ever had and it still breaks my heart he died 7 months ago. I do care for my Uncle Keith, but I get to see him even less than I was able to see my grandfather. Your story about this man was so touching. It made me cry a little bit reading he passed. I do understand how you feel. My grandfather was a tank. WW2 veteran, heavy drinker, had a great sense of humor, an interesting way of thinking, and damn was he an actual genius, I swear. He meant so much to me. When he continued getting ill of old age, back and forth in care homes after hospitals I still thought hed be ok. Over 10 years ago he survived open heart surgery. The man was 85 and like 6"3 and still drink vodka every day. I didnt think old age would get him, I thought thatd be the last thing. The hardest part is the call when he was doing bad and he became "unresponsive" the last time in the nursing hospital, they felt hed pass soon, and when I saw him that day I knew it was his last. I could tell, I had to stand there crying for 15 minutes, seeing him as a withered, frail old man, I had seen that months before but he got better, this time I knew he wouldnt. That "unresponsive" thing, bullshit. He was content with his death, the time I saw him before that when he was back home, he embraced it, he enjoyed the life he had. I found the idea heartbreaking that Id lose him. So I thought of how he was ready to go, and I told him he was my hero and I loved him. I was always the outcast in the family and felt unwanted, by everyone but him and Uncle Keith, and maybe I just think this because its comforting, but after I said that, his hand twitched a little, and his eyes seemed to move as if he tried to open them. I like to believe that maybe he heard me. That was the hardest thing in my life. It still hurts. When the phone rang close to 11pm that night I knew he was resting. And I do mean that, he said he didnt want to live as a fragile, weak person in pain. He was just given comfort care at his last hours.

I hope sharing this with you, can comfort you that youre not alone in this, and Im sure there are tons of people that have felt how you do now.

I think that the fact hed donate his body to science is amazing. Im a proud to have signed up for the same thing. I believe that in death we have the choice to give life. Think of how many lives he may be giving with his own now over. He seems like a great man. I hope the love for him lives on forever through stories and memories. He sounds like someone I would have liked to meet.

Kaffee
03-29-2010, 02:24 PM
Sorry to hear of your loss. My thougts and prayers go out to you and your family.